i've always found it funny that many people don't consider
why we do the things we do. they don't wonder why we breathe oxygen, or drink water, or have our senses concentrated in or around our heads (a process called cephalization); it's enough for them that we simply
do.
to wit: why do we laugh? what is the reason for laughter? i don't think we really know, definitively, but one theory i like is that laughter is the human response to the perception of incongruity. this means people laugh when they expect a thing or situation to be or turn out one way, but then it turns out a different way. this probably developed from a collective defense mechanism. that is, the ancestors of men, living in arboreal or swamp-like environments, would become tense when they saw ripples in the water or a shivering of leaves; after all, those could be signs there was a predator ready to spring forth. in short, their minds started
anticipating one particular outcome of events. when the rustling stopped to reveal only the wind acting on the leaves, or the goldfish jumped up from the water, these (simian?) creatures saw an outcome
different from the one they anticipated. to show that there was no immediate threat to the group/family/clan/tribe, the ones closest to the source of 'danger' started laughing, which eventually everyone shared in when they realized there was no danger. this could also be the reason why laughter is 'infectious'.
i don't mean to give you something you could more succinctly or detailedly learn by cruising wikipedia.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laughter i mean to say that laughter is itself a human outlet for tension. so i fail to comprehend the
easy offence some people take at humor.
story: i'm at a bar in itaewon this saturday, talking with fellow rugby players of my friend paul. so i meet this one lass, introduce myself and start talking to her. i'm not attracted to her (i don't think she's much attractive at all) and i was not trying to pick her up, only talk to her, in my inebriated-enough state. she says some boys embarrassed her friend a couple of weekends back. they accomplished this by getting her drunk on fair quantities of liquor, and convinced her, while she was not of sound mind, to take off her top and dance on tables. so, in a jocular voice, and nothing approaching serious reflection, she asks 'how can i get back at them?'
now i, equally jocular, proffer the suggestion that she cruise their facebook pages, learn the names of their mothers, their hometowns, and send an email, official-enough looking, from a 'hospital' in their hometowns, staffed by a 'doctor' with an uncommon but not rare name offering his condolescences for his mother's recent diagnosis of cancer. of course, this was jocularly suggested, and had it been actually followed through, it WOULD have been funny given the incredible dedication and attention to detail it would require.
at this point, the girl, who shall remain nameless, but you know who you are, lays into me, lambasting me for my lack of 'sensitivity'. it turns out her mom died from cancer. i kindly apologized to her, and reminded her that no one had a monopoly on suffering. i don't really feel i had anything to apologize for, but i didn't wanna ruin the lass's night. you see she'd forgotten that just because cancer deaths lost humor in her situation, they did NOT lose humor in all situations. in fact, there's really no reason cancer deaths SHOULD have lost humor in her situation, except that she let them.
i hope i always remember humor is a tool to relieve tension, and that i receive jokes in the same spirit in which it's given.